Tuesday, May 7, 2013

MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS.

It can be argued that we, as humans, are slaves to our emotional states.  Emotion tempers our reason, gives weight to experience, and color to memories.  The downside to emotion is its uncontrollable nature.  Anxiety before a meeting. Anger during a confrontation.  Emotion takes the blacks and whites of life and muddles them into a million shades of gray.

So as we strive to better ourselves and prepare for the unexpected, how do we account for the chaotic nature of our emotional state?

Wikipedia lists the psychological definition of "Sublimation" as:


         " a mature type of defense mechanism where socially unacceptable impulses or idealizations
           are consciously transformed into socially acceptable actions or behavior, possibly resulting
 in a long-term conversion of the initial impulse."

Nietzsche wrote:

"there is, strictly speaking, neither unselfish conduct, nor a wholly disinterested point of view. Both are simply sublimations in which the basic element seems almost evaporated and betrays its presence only to the keenest observation."

Simply put, humans cannot act outside the influence of some kind of personal interest. For the sake of this post, I will argue that interest is a projection of emotional status. Therefore emotional state MUST be taken in consideration when preparing for any event where personal performance at optimum levels is required. What if the ninjas attack when you're depressed? Angry? Stupid in love?
The ninjas WILL NOT CARE. (LMAO! I'm sorry, that shit is kinda funny)

So we must strive to sublimate our emotional state into something useful in a confrontation (or casual meeting, business meeting, date, etc.). I will try to address the strongest and most basic emotions that play on us everyday.




HAPPY:
This is the state that most of us plan to operate from, although it is the most fleeting and easily disrupted one.  We tend to hope that adversity comes to us on our best days, where we feel most capable to cope.  This is rarely the case. Therefore, I won't linger here. Most of you have your sunny day plans (Probably labeled "rainy day") well prepared.

Good luck with that.

SAD:
We tend to look at this as our most vulnerable state. I believe that's reserved for another emotion. Sadness and depression robs us of motivation and energy. We feel at our most vulnerable. When sadness becomes despair it makes any proactive movement nigh impossible. It is these times where we should be at our most efficient. Make the moves count. Shield the tender spots. Maybe favor defense to offense, but don't give too much ground. The parts of us that are still intact during sadness are precious. Do not compromise them. When people speak of resolve, it is most often during times of sadness. Resolve is a cool word that just means the ability to act in spite of the crippling pain of despair.

ANGRY:
"Anger clouds judgement", said every sifu, sensei, master ever. Anger usually leads to gross inefficiency in an attempt to maximize destructive potential. A lot of energy is wasted in meaningless directions. When most people think of the martial arts, they probably think of taking anger and rage and focusing it into a laser-focus of lethality. I believe that the discipline endowed by the arts serves to blunt the impact of rage on the rational mind, and helps to illustrate the emptiness of angry action. Training to identify, contain, and control the effects of rage on the mentality is a necessity; as most violent situations have a strong emotional component. The ensuing violence is often the result of an emotional outburst.

                                      
AFRAID:
Yoda says it best:
"Fear is the path to the Dark Side. 
Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. 
Hate leads to suffering."

Fear is an incredibly strong emotion. It is unpredictable, and therefore very difficult to simulate. We would like to think that we either have no fear, or can control it's pangs.


Nothing could be further from the truth.

Fighters often try to predict their responses to critical situations but I feel that we often fail to give the fear factor its proper weight. Special Forces training includes an extensive "fear mitigation" component, and for good reason. Fear leads to hesitation, hesitation kills speed, and the absence of speed cripples combat effectiveness. Fear must be controlled like anger; and one of the only effective ways of preparing for the effects of fear is to place one's self in its presence. Facing fear is the only way to overcome it, and the very act is much easier said than done. The act of facing fear however, builds confidence; and confidence is an invaluable weapon in any situation. As practice, try exercises that mitigate the effects of fear or panic; breathing regulation, mental cues, and self-assessment are some examples.

There are other emotions that complicate stressful situations that must be accounted for:
HUNGRY: Fight hungry, but don't LOOK hungry.  Hunger is a passion that drives our latent hunter/killer instinct.
STRESSED: Regroup, fight another day if possible.
HORNY: UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD ANYONE ENTER A CONFRONTATION IN HEAT. NOTHING WORKS RIGHT. MOST OF ALL, YOUR BRAIN.


Of these last few, I would suggest that one avoid conflict/confrontation in these mindstates.  Their effects are debilitating to an extent to place one at a severe disadvantage in most situations.

So confront the presence of your emotions.  Give them their due attention.  Learn to balance them with your rational mind. Because THE NINJAS DON'T CARE.



6 comments:

  1. Some interesting points here. I think you're walking a thin line between simplicity and complexity in your rationalizations of why/how we master our emotions. There is no one definitive way to explain emotions b/c they are subjective to our interpretation(Thus making them complex). However you do offer very simple, practical solutions towards mastering these emotions that don't require years of training but can be applied in most everyday situations. Thanks for sharing!

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  2. Thanks! My intent is to boil down some of these concepts into a digestible form. The whys and permutations of our admittedly complex emotions are way past my capacity. I can only say, "If you're sad, be sad, because embracing that doesn't necessarily mean that you're helpless".

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  3. TheJokerOnRitalinMay 8, 2013 at 3:41 PM

    I was teaching a friend to swim one day. I did see panic clearly on his face once, while in the deep end of the water. in a calm voice, i reminded him that he was panicking, without trying to physically aid him in the water. then i saw rational observation come over his face, and then he took deliberate action. This is the best external illustration i've witnessed of mindfulness, wherein he represented the ego, and i represented his self-talk. i am certain that the emotion of fear remained in him, but he found a way to acknowledge it and move on.

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  4. Show me the true master of emotions and I will become his pupil!

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    1. Unfortunately, only you can master your emotions. It can't be taught, but it CAN be learned.

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